Chains The average American is pretty well versed on safe or safer sex practices and protection from sexually transmitted diseases. Usually, it is carelessness rather than ignorance to blame in reported known cases of STD’S. Where can I buy a condom for my heart? No one has introduced a successful protection device or safety plan for this vital organ. Other than internal instinct, there is little we can do to keep predators out. We rely on homemade defense mechanisms for protection. Even the best monitored hearts fall. No one is born with a natural immunity from heartache. Ironically, these painful feelings are what molds and defines our character. As I turn the page from yet, one more failed attempt at romance, I wonder what part of my complex internal safety system failed? How did someone get by my motion detectors? What is done is done and cannot be redone. So, it is time now for the cleanup process and evaluation. What have I learned and how can I use this experience for self-improvement? How do I keep my heart from growing bitter from it? As I write, I see the smile that captivated me and caused me to drop my defenses; a picture on the wall above my desk ignites bittersweet memories of recent days and events. I smile too. I won’t ask who, when or why. This is not a new feeling, but it is unique. My heart is still beating, though at times, I thought it would stop. The rebuilding process has become second nature. It was a long, sleepless night, but the sun is shining through the windows again as I knew it would. The traffic outside is getting louder as people hurry to their places of work and a new day begins. There is an invisible pressure on my chest as I too prepare for another day and look over my lists of obligations and tasks for the day. I take a minute to experience the aftershock. I miss my friend, but at the same time, I am angry and disappointed. Maybe I will call an old friend that I have been neglecting, but am I ready for the question and answer session that is unavoidable? I will start with a walk to the gym and use my frustrations as a tool to motivate me to get back in shape. That is a good decision and a small, but positive step forward. It’s going to be ok. I look at the picture on the wall again. I smile too.
We’re So Vain “I’ll bet you think this song is about you. Don’t you? Don’t you?” -- Lyric from Carly Simon’s hit song “You’re So Vain”.
We are a nation “Gone With the Wind”, much like the character of Scarlet O’ Hara in Margaret Mitchell’s 1936 best-selling novel. Scarlet O’Hara was notoriously self centered, often shrewd and completely vain. She is willing to step on anyone who comes between her having things her way and what she considers to be in the best interest of herself and her family. Sound like anyone you know? It is healthy to be competitive and set high standards and goals for yourself. We should never stop growing and expanding our mental and physical boundaries. After all, it is our constitutional right to pursue our own form of happiness, but what I want to explore is: when is it all too much and where do we draw the line on vanity? Some people stop at nothing to get what they want; they can even be capable of murder. We read about it everyday. Jealousy, envy and the quest for money and power motivates people over the edge. I see it wherever I go. Is anyone ever really happy or content on the level they are currently on? Stop and look around you right now. Enjoy the beauty of the people and things in your life now! Quit waiting on tomorrow and your knight in shining leather or whatever he or she looks like in your fantasies. Be the person you would like to meet. Diva attitudes like Joan Crawford, are a thing of the past. Bitchy is out! If stars were to behave in that manner today, they would be blackballed from Hollywood and treated for Bi Polar Disorder. Are all your “heroes” Bitches with an attitude or drug problem? Ask yourself why? These attention starved people are bringing me down. I am not buying into the stereotype they are selling. It has been done and it has been done much better. Being a Bitch does not require talent; the talent is in those who tolerate you. Scarlett: Sir, you are no gentleman.
Rhett: And you, miss, are no lady...Don't think that I hold that against you. Ladies have never held any charm for me.–from the movie ‘Gone With the Wind’ based on the book by Margarot Mitchell.
We’re So Vain
“I’ll bet you think this song is about you. Don’t you? Don’t you?” -- Lyric from Carly Simon’s hit song “You’re So Vain”.
We are a nation “Gone With the Wind”, much like the character of Scarlet O’ Hara in Margaret Mitchell’s 1936 best-selling novel. Scarlet O’Hara was notoriously self centered, often shrewd and completely vain. She is willing to step on anyone who comes between her having things her way and what she considers to be in the best interest of herself and her family. Sound like anyone you know?
It is healthy to be competitive and set high standards and goals for yourself. We should never stop growing and expanding our mental and physical boundaries. After all, it is our constitutional right to pursue our own form of happiness, but what I want to explore is: when is it all too much and where do we draw the line on vanity?
Some people stop at nothing to get what they want; they can even be capable of murder. We read about it everyday. Jealousy, envy and the quest for money and power motivates people over the edge.
I see it wherever I go. Is anyone ever really happy or content on the level they are currently on? Stop and look around you right now. Enjoy the beauty of the people and things in your life now! Quit waiting on tomorrow and your knight in shining leather or whatever he or she looks like in your fantasies. Be the person you would like to meet.
Diva attitudes like Joan Crawford, are a thing of the past. Bitchy is out! If stars were to behave in that manner today, they would be blackballed from Hollywood and treated for Bi Polar Disorder.
Are all your “heroes” Bitches with an attitude or drug problem? Ask yourself why? These attention starved people are bringing me down. I am not buying into the stereotype they are selling. It has been done and it has been done much better. Being a Bitch does not require talent; the talent is in those who tolerate you.
Scarlett: Sir, you are no gentleman.
Rhett: And you, miss, are no lady...Don't think that I hold that against you. Ladies have never held any charm for me.–from the movie ‘Gone With the Wind’ based on the book by Margarot Mitchell.
Rhett: And you, miss, are no lady...Don't think that I hold that against you. Ladies have never held any charm for me.–from the movie ‘Gone With the Wind’ based on the book by Margarot Mitchell.
Back to Basic (Training)
I have become an accidental activist. What started out as a project to muse myself and satisfy my boredom has become a full-time passion. I can no longer be silent regarding certain political issues. I can no longer wait patiently for the proper elected officials to recognize me as equal to my brothers, neighbors, and friends. The time is now for basic human rights for all men and women. No exceptions!
The extremities certain people and groups are willing to stoop to, for the purpose of concealing hatred and closeted fear, horrifies me. How can we peacefully and effectively remove the blinders people wear to disguise their insecurities and misconceptions of their own sexuality?
“Gay marriage mocks the sanctity of marriage.”, cries the man twice divorced. “Don’t Ask. Don’t Tell is for the protection of gays,” From who and what? I ask. “Hate crime legislation gives special rights to minorities.” “These crimes were homosexually provoked.” Come on! “This ain’t my first rodeo” people. I know the smell of bullshit.
Presidential candidate, Bill Clinton promised gays equality in exchange for their votes. What he delivered for payment of these votes with the ‘Don’t Ask. Don’t Tell Policy’ for the US Military, is a law that not only legalizes discrimination against gay men and women serving in the armed forces, but protects those who harass them, through what is nothing more than a ‘witch hunt’.
This is not just an issue based on sexuality. It is about the right to love whom you choose to love. It is about not having to lie about the person closest to your heart; the right to walk in the light with the person you love, not hide in some dimly lit bar or the back booth of a restaurant. That decision is yours to make; not the church and not the government.
This publication and many others are all about the Gay Flag and rainbow colors that represent our quest for equality and Pride of our sexuality, but somehow, the meaning has been lost in the interpretation. We have a Pride Committee consisting of members who are still very much closeted and the main topic of business at a meeting is not equal rights, but the discussion of the new crowns for the Mr and Miss Pride competitions.
So who will be our voice? Who will comfort the soldier that spent his entire career defending his country, and is stripped of all honors and benefits six months before his retirement, because it was discovered that he was a homosexual. What kind of benefits and encouragement will the woman who’s life partner was killed in active duty receive? Who will tell the child who’s dream is to become a soldier, that it can never be a reality, because that child was born gay?
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